Many people think that the best way to solve their marriage problems is to just quickly divorce the other person and be done with it. Much like the way one would remove a band aid. Quite honestly though, in today's society getting married really is meaningless for most people, they just quickly dispose of their spouse without ever taking steps to try and fix themselves and their relationship.
Many people say things like I want to save my marriage, but most people don't really want to deal with their marriage problems. If they really wanted marriage help, they would more than likely seek out a marriage counseling service. These days many types of counseling are covered by most major medical insurance carriers. The cost is minimal for their services, but the advice they can provide you and your spouse is priceless.
They can really help provide an objective outlook at the situations you are dealing with. They don't need to pick a side, but they can listen to both people and help you formulate solutions to the issues together. They can help you take steps that will gradually and forever improve and change your relationship. They will teach you how to fight fairly and without digs and nasty comments and they will also teach you how to listen. Many marriages fail because of lack of communication and over issues involving money and / or children. Some of these issues can be very heated automatically causing a war every time even just the topic is put on the table. You must have a mediator if you have reached this point of a stalemate.
I have personally experienced the value of both individual and couples counseling several times in my life. I have found the benefits of a counselor's thoughts and opinions invaluable at times in my life when I have just felt like I was completely stuck. The one thing to keep in mind about couples counseling however is the fact that in order for this type of counseling to really have its greatest effect and benefit, then both parties must be completely honest. If you do not plan to put all the cards on the table, than don't waist your time and money.
Please invest as much time in trying to save your marriage as you did in planning the wedding. Don't just through it away because of petty arguments and disagreements. You loved this person once, just look closely and find it again.